SELF-CARE. Ugh, it’s so important.
But we tend to move it out of the way, or shove it into the closet to make room for the Pity Party, and the ‘my life is over’ balloons. I am 100% guilty of this party planning.
I recently experienced a little bit of rejection in my life. In my case, it was a job. A job I was really, really interested in.
I didn’t get it, and that’s okay.
But in the moment, I felt like it wasn’t okay… and my first instinct was to cry.
So I cried for a minute, and then I decided it was time to start handling life a little differently.
I wanted to share with you guys my Self Care Tips for Rejection; whether it be from a job, a relationship, family… anything.
These are the steps that I take to feel better when I’m feeling ‘less than’ and I wanted to share them with you.
Give yourself a moment, but only a moment.
You deserve a moment, you really do. But keep it short and do not dwell. This moment comes in all shapes and forms. You can scream at the top of lungs, you can cry until your throat hurts, you can go for an aggressive run, you can take a nap– Pick your poison and make it good, because you only have a moment. Once it’s over, it’s time to start making changes.
Understand that what you’re feeling is normal, but don’t let it define you.
This is step where you start telling yourself that just because you were rejected does not mean you are not worth it. I can’t tell you how many times I rejected an item in a store because it wasn’t the right time, or I couldn’t afford it. Does it mean those items are not beautiful in themselves, and won’t be picked up by the next person who thinks it’s beautiful? Absolutely not. Rejection is contingent on so many things, but it almost always happens because someone was too occupied or stupid to see the value in you.
Do something for you.
At this point you’ve now realized that rejection is normal. People are starting to leave your pity party, you’ve run out of chips and dip, and you have some time to kill that you can dedicate 100% to yourself. This can be anything, as long as it’s something that is going to make you really happy. For myself, that typically means buying myself a big plate of food, or writing an advice blog about my own problems to make me feel better. Some other examples include: buying yourself something nice because you deserve it, going out with friends to keep your mind busy, eating an entire pizza to yourself because pizza will never reject you, or hugging a loved one.
The Cure Lies in Pinterest
Dumbledore once told me that, “Words are, in my not so humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic, capable of both inflicting injury and remedying it.” It is truly insane how words can make us feel, and if enough words are put together into a profound, magical manner… they can change the way we think and how we see the world. What do I mean by this bullshit? Well, Pinterest has life-changing quotes for any predicament you might be in, and finding those quotes are one of the first things I do when I’m feeling down. Here are just a few amazing, healing quotes that I found when I typed ‘quotes about rejection’ into Pinterest.
‘Someday you’ll realize that every time you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were just being pointed toward something better’
‘Be thankful for closed doors, detours and roadblocks. They protect you from paths and places you’re not meant to be’
‘Rejection is not fatal; it is merely someone’s opinion.’
Tell me there isn’t a part of you that feel’s slightly better right now.
You’ve taken your time feel sorry for yourself, feel sad, and feel rejected. It’s time to move forward, and grow. Letting yourself dwell or hide because someone decided they weren’t interested in you is the worst thing you can do for yourself. Because every day that passes by that you allow other people to determine your happiness is a day wasted on this planet. Because sweetheart, the moon doesn’t stop shining at night because you need to time to whine. The sun isn’t going to wait for you to get over yourself. The days are going to keep passing, and I promise you, no one has ever looked back and said ‘wow. I’m really glad I spent a month feeling sorry for myself’.
If rejection didn’t exist, there would literally be no good movies or stories.
No one would watch Harry Potter, there would be no inspiring Disney stories, and the little engine that could… wouldn’t.
You’re going to be okay.